Getting to Happy

*Cross myself and greet the Lord.

• Before getting up each morning, set an intent for the day.

Unlike some fortunate people, I'm not exactly 'awake' when I first wake up. It takes me a little while to rouse into the world of the living. One the other hand, unlike some unfortunate people, I have the pleasure of being at home in the morning and not having to set the alarm clock most days to be at any specific place for any specific reason.
When I do have to be someplace early, I've always been a snooze-button hitter when my alarm is responsible for waking me up; I'm loathe to admitt, I don't just wake up naturally at the crack of dawn. It's best for me to puff up my pillows, sit up for a bit, and assess the day. Ideally, 20 minutes is perfect! Once the groginess of sleep has cleared my brain, I find that it's good to go over my day and set an intent for the day. (I do this even before morning prayer; I'm not quite ready for that yet.)

In The Art of Happiness, the Dali Lama says, "Every day, think as you wake up: today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it."

The Psamist, David said, "Oh God, thou art my God; early will I seek thee: my soul thirsteth for thee, my flesh longeth for thee (my whole nature is designed to long sumpremely after God), in a dry and thisty land where no water is." (Psalm 63:1)

Like King David, I should seek God first thing in the day for His plans and purposes, when I set an intent for my day, before other things come to distract and divert my attention, and well before other influences come in to take control and direct me. The Psamist wasn't searching for real water or any earthly thing, but for sprititual manifestations of God and direction for his life. It's difficult to find that as the day progresses, just like the cool morning dew evaporates as the heat of the sun blazes down on the day.

I don't want the daily intent that I set up to be just another "to do" item on my ever-increasing list. It has to be more than that. I want it to be something that makes a great difference in my day. Something like: "Enjoy today's significant moments" or "work hard and be nice today." It might be a little more specific like "saying thankyou to loved ones today" or "making the day a completely positive day, with no negatives in it."

God's promise made to Solomon can certainly apply to me: "I love them that love me; and those that seek me early shall find me. (Proverbs 8:17)

Whatever the case may be, I do it; with God's help I will set the intent for the day. Setting out into the day with purpose, and not just aimlessly wondering into it without direction or a path to follow.


How will I get to "Happy" if I do that?

How will I get anywhere if I do that?



Avere un buon giorno,



Mimi

 

How To Feel Better Today

   
     I'm going to talk about feeling better at home. I'm home most of the time these days for one reason or another, so I got to thinking: How can I 'feel' better while I'm at home. Don't get me wrong. I'm not writing this for you. I'm writing this for me! I want to feel better at home. I love my home. I don't always want to take a walk in the woods or a drive to the beach to feel better. I don't even necessarily want to be outside. I just want to feel better while I'm at home.
     For me, and as anyone can attest to who knows me, I always feel better at home if my bed is made. It's remarkable how a few minor little tweaks and adjustments to my daily routine, like making my bed, can become the agent to a meaningful change within my day. But its true, and always has been true. If my bed's undone -- I'm undone.
     My home is an extension of who I am. What I do within the walls of my dwelling place shapes my mood, affects my productivity, and influences my entire outlook on life.
Karen Miller, wife, mother, Zen priest, and author of "Hand Wash Cold" and Momma Zen" explains: "The state of your bed is the state of your head." She is definitely on to something. When I walk out of my bedroom with my bed in a massive bundle of covers, I start the day on the wrong foot - already feeling defeated by my bed! Even my dog knows something is wrong if I don't throw all of the pillows on the floor and start making the bed before I walk out of the bedroom. He looks and me with that look. "Are we getting back in?" We are both loath to get the day started. It's pitiful!
     On the other hand, when Sherman (my dog) and I step back and have a look at our freshly made bed, I have to admit that we are happy. I think about how nice it will be to pull back the covers that evening after a long day as all three of us (husband, dog and me) go through our evening routine. And as I walk out of the bedroom and invariably look back at the pretty made-up bed, I say to my room, "So long you cozy little cave of tranquility. I've created you with my own hands and you are as you once were. Until we meet again." Somehow I'm ready to tackle the day. Happier!

 Sogni d'oro (sweet dreams),

Mimi






http://www.ehow.com/video_4756201_make-bed.html

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Time is Unfair Sometimes

     Time has been a little unfair to this blogger. I considered transferring all of the information on this blog
 to a different host after months of trying to figure out how a 'coloncleansingcompany.com' was hacking into my blog every time anyone logged in, including me! I tried everything: erasing posts, spending hours with my Internet security company while they took over my computer and zoomed around at the speed of expert, while I just watched in amazement, but nothing! I tried many (amateur) attempts myself at working through the problem, with little success. It wasn't until today that the mystery solved.

     I received a long awaited answer back from Google Blogger. It seems the 'coloncleansingcompany.com' people had hacked into one of my Google Gadgets - the one that counts how many visitors come to my blog. That makes sense, right? Each time they visit my blog, my visitor would be helplessly redirected to the hacker's website! Grrrrrr! 
     All I had to do was erase that Gadget from my side-bar and voila . . . problem solved. I have my blog back with no nasty hackers trying to steal my faithful readers from me! In the meantime, I did make a little change. When you used to get to my blog by this address: http://tpelikan.blogspot.com; now you only need type: thepelikanbrief.com to get here (which you already know if you are reading this). So, please spread the word. Changing to my personal domain name was one of the attempts at fixing the problem. Now that I've decided to keep it, it's a lot easier to remember.

     As a result, I've got a lot of catching up to do. About a year's worth, it would appear. I'll do my best to combine the two, with a few fun changes along the way.

(((Abbracci))) e benedizioni, 

Mimi (a.k.a. Tamera)

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Happy 5th Birthday, Elijah

Happy 5th Birthday, Elijah Pelikan

Dear Elijah,

     Today is your 5th birthday! This means so many things for you:
     You are half-way to the age of ten, and we bet you can do things like skip and jump and hop now, better than ever! Can you stand on one foot with your eyes closed? That's what you can do when you're five!
     You can copy a triangle and spread peanut butter with a knife.
     You can name all of your primary colors and count to ten. You know all the names of the coins in your Dad's pocket. And, we think you probably say "Why" a lot.
     You are growing about 3 inches a year (or maybe even more in your case), and you are behaving more responsibly now. Have you noticed that? It's easier to apologize for your mistakes and to be more peaceful. You like to imagine things more when you're five-year's-old, like a trip somewhere.

     When you are five it's fun to read together, and learn rules; you will like to play with other children and go to interesting, new places.
     And you know what else you can do when you're five? You can start to do little chores around the house. Mimi and Papa know that you get the mail every day, but now that you are five you can add some more things. You can help set the table, and pick up your toys after playing with them without being asked. You can even start to learn to make your bed yourself!  Five is Fun!

For Elijah

Happy Birthday
Our sweet little man,
We love you very much
We'll see you and hug you as soon as we can.

Dream big dreams today
Of God's wonderful plan,
He sees you and is with you to lead you every step of the way.
He loves you very much.

Just remember if you ever need us
We'll be right there,
And no matter where we are
You are always in our heart!
Love,

Mimi & Papa

“May the blessing of the Lord be upon you. May your Guardian Angel protect you from all attacks of the enemy!”

Happy Birthday, Misha

Today Misha is 7-year's old! Happy Birthday to our creative, funny, happy, and sweet little granddaughter. We look forward to the days when birthday celebrations can be at Mimi and Papa's house again,

Buon Compleanno . . . birthday love and hugs!

Happy Birthday, Elina!

It's a run of birthdays in November!  Today we celebrate Elina Pelikan - our daughter-in-law and wife to Jesse, and mommy to Misha, Elijah and Ella.

Elina, just before Ella was born

Happy Birthday, Elina and Many Years!

Love,

Mom & Dad

Happy Birthday, Johnny!



Christmas 2010 with niece, Ella - She loves her Uncle Johnny



Happy 36th Birthday, Johnny! May God grant you many more  years to come!

Happy Birthday, Elijah

Happy 4th Birthday today, to our first -- and only -- grandson, Elijah Martin Pelikan. We know we are far apart from each other now, all the way over here in Italy, but we look forward to spending lots of your birthdays with you in the future.

You are a very special boy to us and we love you very much!

Your Mimi & Papa

Ah. . . Venice!

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We finally have pictures of our trip to Venice. We've set them to music for you so they're a little more fun to see.  Hope you enjoy them.  Our trip was back in the middle of JULY!! It's hard to believe it's been so long since we were there.  So much has happened since then.  I have a lot of catching up to do on my blog.

Well, here's a start

(((abbracci)))

Papa & Mimi

Nativity of the Theotokos

Nativity of the Mother of God


This is the day of the Lord; wherefore, rejoice ye nations; for behold the chamber of Light, the scroll of the Word of life hath come forth from the womb; the gate facing the east hath been born. Wherefore, she awaiteth the entrance of the High Priest. And she alone admitted Christ into the universe for salvation of our souls.

+ Doxastikon of the Feast, Tone 6

http://www.antiochian.org/

I love the way Fr. Andrew Damick writes in his blog today when he says, “And just as the Ark of the Old Covenant was carefully constructed and prepared by human hands, so, too, was the new Ark carefully prepared. But instead of the preparation of carpenters and goldsmiths, the preparation of the Virgin Mary was by her quiet and humble obedience to and cooperation with the will of God.”

As a Protestant considering Orthodoxy, this was probably the hardest area for me; anything to do with “Mary” being more—just more anything. I struggled in the beginning, but fortunately I had wonderful mentors (one being my husband), to help me understand the full meaning of what she accomplished for all of us.

Again, in his blog, Roads from Emmaus, the entry today goes on to say, “This is why we honor the Virgin Mary, not because we want to elevate her to the status of a goddess and worship her, but because she is the carefully prepared vessel which bore the God of the Universe, the Second Person of the Holy Trinity, the Son of God, Jesus Christ. Through her came our salvation. Through her came a new life for every human being and the whole world. Through her came union between God and man.”

Doesn’t this make such incredibly beautiful sense?

Fr. Damick again saying, “Therefore, we approach her today and venerate her on her birthday because we desire to approach and come close to the Son of God. We respect her and sing about her glory because that glory is the glory of the awesome God. We call upon her here at the center of our worship just as the Hebrews placed the old Ark at the center of theirs, not because she or a golden box are to be the object of worship, but because the Ark is the place of worship, because the Ark of the Old Covenant and now the Ark of the New Covenant are the place where God has chosen to draw near to His people.”

Living here in Italy, we see a Roman Catholic Church practically everywhere we look. They too will celebrate this special day. The Western and the Eastern Catholic churches have some very specific and important theological differences; however, both venerate her (not worship her), and honor her in accordance with the Scripture where she declares in the Magnificat:

And Mary said: “My soul magnifies the Lord: And my spirit has rejoiced in God my Savior. For He has regarded the lowliness of His maidservant: for, behold, from henceforth all generations will call me blessed. For He who is mighty has done great things for me, and holy is His Name. And His mercy is on those who fear Him from generation to generation. He has shown strength with His arm; He has scattered the proud in the imagination of their hearts. He has put down the mighty from their thrones, and exalted the lowly. He has filled the hungry with good things, and the rich he has sent away empty. He has helped His servant Israel, in remembrance of His mercy; as He spoke to our fathers, to Abraham and to his seed forever.

Hence forth shall all men call me blessed.” Luke 1:46-55

"As we look upon the icon of the Holy Virgin, we see that she points us to her Son. Today, as we celebrate her birth into this world, may we hear her call to draw near to her holy Son. As we gaze upon the glory that surrounds her as more honorable than the cherubim and more glorious beyond compare than the seraphim, may we be drawn into a true encounter with that glory, the glory which is God’s and may also be ours if we are in union and communion with Him, just as she is." (Fr. Damick)

*

Happy 7th Anniversary to our son, Jesse and his lovely wife Elina. It hardly seems like it's been 7 years already. But when we look at their precious family, we see the fruit of those years and realize it has been seven years and the time truly flew by.

In the Name of the Father, Son , and Holy Spirit:


"God of power and might, You have kept Jesse and Elina together for seven years of marriage. Thank you for the joy of celebrating their life together today and for the many ways their marriage has touched all of us. Indeed, You have blessed us all with Jesse and Elina. Please strengthen them, guide them, and sustain them for many more years with each other and with us, that we all may live in the light of Your love." Through the prayers of our Holy Fathers, have mercy on us, and save us, Amen.



Love,
Dad and Mom

Happy 57th Anniversary!!

High School Sweethearts, Best Friends, Life Partners . . . through it all! That's what it's all about! Congratulations Mom & Dad, on 57 years of marriage!
Friday, August 13, 1954! Who says Friday the 13th is supposed to be bad luck! You've proved them all wrong, time and time again.

WE LOVE YOU!!

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Saint Joanna the Myrrh-bearer

Commemorated on June 27




Saint Joanna the Myrrh-bearer, wife of Chusa, the household steward of King Herod, was one of the women following and attending the Lord Jesus Christ during the time of His preaching and public ministry. She is mentioned in Luke 8:3 and 24:10. Together with the other Myrrh-bearing Women, St. Joanna went to the Sepulchre to anoint the Holy Body of the Lord with myrrh after His death on the Cross, and she heard from the angels the joyful proclamation of His All-Glorious Resurrection. According to Tradition, she recovered the head of St. John the Baptist after Herodias had disposed of it (February 24).


St. Joanna is also commemorated on the Sunday of the Myrrh-bearing Women

By permission of the Orthodox Church in America (http://www.oca.org/)




'Verily, the angel came to the tomb and said to the ointment-bearing women, the ointment
is meet for the dead, but Christ is shown to be remote from corruption. But cry ye: The
Lord is risen, granting the world the Great Mercy'.
St. Joanna was of the household of King Herod Antipas who was tetrarch, or local ruler, of certain areas of Palestine from the years 4 B.C. to 39 A.D. and like his father before him, King Herod, he ruled the area with the permission of the Roman government where, by this time, controlled much of the Mediterranean region. This Herod "Antipas" was credited with building a city on the Sea of Galilee and naming it for his friend, the Roman emperor Tiberius. According to Holy Scripture, he also ordered the beheading of John the Baptist at the request of his own daughter. It makes sense now that St. Joanna, being married to the household steward of the King, would've known where to find the severed head of John the Baptist after it had been disposed of, and as Eastern tradition says, give the head of John the Baptist an honourable burial.

[I've always wondered about that]

 

Happy Anniversary to John & Rondi Pelikan

Happy 9th Anniversary today to our son and daughter-in-law, John & Rondi Pelikan!

May God grant you many years!

Help us find a home for "Kong"!

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Look who showed up in our lives! It seems that animals are drawn to me like magnets - always have been.  Well this guy is just the sweetest thing in the world, and deserves to be living with a family that will love him and give him a great home. Or maybe a Sailor or Marine who wants to go for a run on the beach with a dog who won't run away, and will keep ya company during your tour in Italy - Kong is your boy!
He's gentle, funny, and has a gentle bark that is as loud as a freight-train! If you know of anyone that might be interested in this beautiful guy, please leave a comment here on my blog and I'll get back with you right away!

Thanks!

Dancing With The Demon What Brung Ya - Orthodixie - Ancient Faith Radio

Dancing With The Demon What Brung Ya - Orthodixie - Ancient Faith Radio

Lunar Eclipse

It's 11:00 PM, and we just looked outside and can still see it - for those who want to run outside and take a peek!
As Papa was closing the shudders for the night, he looked out the window and yelled down to me, "Is there supposed to me a lunar eclipse tonight?"  So, I quickly looked it up on the internet and sure enough, a total lunar eclipse was going to be visible from South America, Europe, Africa, Asia, and parts of Australia
  this evening!



But not in North America! Suddenly we felt very far away from home! This further emphasized just how far away we are from our family.



When we first noticed it the moon was completely in the earth's shadow and had a redish glow. Then as we continued to watch a sliver of white light began to appear on the edge as the moon started to move out of the earth's shadow, I ran downstairs, got the camera  and zoomed back up the marble stairs - and for those of you who understand this - Sherman in toe the entire time . . .  and somehow snapped these photos! It was June 15, 2011, Naples, Italy!



Buon Compleanno, Luigi!

Luigi Pisa - 75 years' young



This is the patio of Luigi's  home

Paulo and Papa grilling lamb and beef on his "Weber" grill



We received our customary call. “I’m Luigi,” our landlord says in his own special broken-English way. “Venire[come] alla mio[my] festa di compleanno, [birthday party]! settanta cinque[75] anni – years old! Yikes . . . ok, so I’m on the other end of the phone and the listening carefully. The best I could do with this at the time happened to be pretty close – whew! The Italian I’ve been studying was coming in handy after all. Luigi Pisa was turning 75 and wanted us to come to his birthday party the following weekend!



Everyone raved about this cantelope and tomatoe dish!



The Mayor of Pozzouli and Luigi's American friends

 



Valentina and Giovanni



Gelato and strawberries drenched in a sweet wine reduction!



Yum!



What is the custom in Italy for the man who has everything? So, we asked the protocol officer at Papa’s work – a lady who handles all that kind of stuff for the Admirals. I was so surprised by her answer! She said, “Bring him something American; some kind of food, like Philadelphia Cheese Cake.” (which, of course, we sell at the Base Commissary) So, that’s just what we did. He never really said if they enjoyed it or not or even really knew what it was – but that’s ok! It was the thought that counts . . . and we all know how deeelicious it will be! At first they wanted to bring it out with the rest of the fabulous meal, frozen solid as a rock, and all! We had to explain that it was for the family to eat later and that they should begin to ‘thaw’ it about two hours before eating it. We aren’t sure if we did the right thing. We brought the toppings to go with the cheesecake, and a lovely card in English, which his son read to him in front of everyone, translating directly to Italian . . . and then proceeded to have the most incredible meal EVER!! The mayor of our town, Pozzouli, was one of the invited guests, as well as longtime friends, retired head of the Carabinieri, a Gendarmerie-like military corps with police duties. They also serve as the Italian military police. His entire family, and newly engaged son and soon-to-be, daughter-in-law were there too; an Admiral friend and his wife and young daughter joined by some other American friends. It was quite the evening!





Luigi's grandson blew out the candles



It was a wonderful celebration and we consider ourselves blessed and honored to have been a part of it!

Vice President Biden's visit to Naples!!



Waiting. . .



. . . and what to our wondering eyes should appear? Our Vice President, with very little notice to spare! Vice President and Dr. Jill Biden made somewhat of a surprise visit to NSA Naples, Italy, this past Saturday, June 4th, to speak to the service members and their families, with what I think may have been less than a week’s notice. As you can imagine, people have been scrambling like crazy to prepare for his impromptu stopover; nonetheless, it appeared to come off without a hitch! (thanks to some mighty fine planning and execution, no doubt!)



A sea of blue . . .



Can you spot the Marine? (ha!)



Me shaking hands and saying a few words to Dr. Biden.



Both the Vice President and his wife, Dr. Biden, were gracious, encouraging and compassionate to the troops and all those on the Piazza of Capodichino on Saturday. They each identified with having a son serving overseas (their son having served in Iraq), and how often the VP would see his wife preparing coffee, for example, in the morning her lips silently moving in prayer for their son.



The V.P. commenting to me that being a Chaplain's wife was one of the
hardest and most important in the military!



They each spoke of their thankfulness for our sacrifice, the service member as well as the families, and how much it means to our country. It was actually pretty inspiring when you’re just a few feet away listening to him. I could feel how genuine he was - they both were! It was a clear, hot day, and the Vice President seemed to go “off-speech” about half-way through his prepared remarks, out of compassion, no doubt, for the fact that it was so hot and that our heads and arms were roasting in the hot sun! He and his wife then took a lot of time afterwards to go around the line of people waiting to say hello and take a photos with them. And he did . . .  with far more people than I’d ever imagined he would have. In fact, he ended up staying and extra two and a half hours - until every last person who wanted a picture with him was able to get one. Much to the chagrin of his staff, his courteous lingering with the troops caused Air Force Two to depart much later than originally planned.




This is my favorite picture!




Ci Vediamo ~ Mimi  
 
(this means "so long" in Italian)

The Ascension of Our Lord Jesus Christ

Feast of the Ascension of Our Lord Jesus Christ




As the angels, O Savior, wondered at Thy strange elevation, and the Disciples were amazed at Thy dread rising, Thou didst ascend in glory, being God, and the gates were lifted up for Thee. Wherefore, the heavenly powers were surprised, shouting, Glory to Thy condescension, O Savior; glory to Thy reign; glory to Thine Ascension, O Thou Who alone art the Lover of mankind.




--Orthros of the Feast



On the fortieth day after Jesus was resurrected from the dead, He was taken up into the heavens in a cloud. The Ascension of Jesus Christ is one of the Great Feasts of the Orthodox Church, celebrated forty days after Pascha (and thus always falling on a Thursday -- yesterday!



From the Heart: Resting in the Ascension

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By Douglas Cramer

Summer is almost here. It’s a good time to just take a deep breath, and relax. You know, go to the beach if you live close to it, have a barbeque, invite some friends over. I remember doing this on a grand scale as a child growing up in New Jersey. But how often do most of us do this anymore? We’re so busy, we’ve forgotten that true rest and relaxation, the kind that really restores you, is vital to our survival.

This week the Church celebrates the Ascension of our Lord, and our worship since Pascha has been rooted in our joy in the Resurrection. In the light of this glorious, peaceful and fulfilling period of the calendar of our Church we should be totally relaxed and fully in the presence of our Lord. But we still struggle to relax and unclench, to be at peace.

Why? In part, because we live our lives in a kind of emotional and spiritual shallows. We’re so busy, we don’t pause to reflect, to listen, to understand our motivations. We are busy for busyness’s sake. We allow others to set our timetable. We often aren’t aware of the reasons we have for doing what we do. We all act a little crazy sometimes, bustling about with all our tasks and projects and responsibilities. It’s important for us to act. But it’s just as important for us to relax, to quietly find our center, to understand what’s driving us to do what we do, to make sure that our choices and actions flow from our deepest values.

How do we turn this around? We start from the heart!

Know Thyself

The Psalms focus this teaching in to a single verse: “Seek peace and pursue it.” We need peace, but we must be active to find it—we must seek and pursue. What does this mean? What is this pursuit? St. Isaac of Syria teaches us the answer: “Enter eagerly into the treasure house that lies within you, and so you will see the treasure house of heaven. The ladder that leads to the Kingdom is hidden within you, and is found in your soul. Dive into yourself, and in your soul you will discover the rungs by which you are to ascend.”

Seek. Pursue. Enter. Ascend. I’m winded just reading this list. However, this is the language of peace. Jesus Christ proclaims: “The kingdom of heaven is within.” We are called to go within, to find our heart, our center, our soul. And to begin our journey there.

The classical philosophers of Greece understood this basic truth of our humanity even before the birth of Christ. The central teaching of Plato, of Socrates, is “Know Thyself.” We must get out of our inner shallows, our superficial sleepwalking through life. We’re called to wake up, to dive deep.


Read the complete article: http://www.antiochian.org/node/17790